The Butterfly Effect

The Butterfly Effect : a sensitive dependence on initial conditions and that is what I find myself exactly in right now. The friends circle and type of school atmosphere I have had , has set my initial conditions to determine my future patterns. However trivial or minimalist those conditions may seem, but if not met, the future patterns of behavior can be highly undetermined or randomized, something totally unexpected could be the outcome. So how do I undo this sensitive dependence now, after years of being under the same set of conditions, its difficult to changes zones and try be something else.
Solving a puzzle maybe more important for me than doing grocery, or delving into manufacturing process discussions maybe more exciting than buying the product itself, but I cant help it, its just me and what I like. So would it be asking for too much if I want someone with the same sense of dislikes. As it is said that small variations in the set of initial conditions can produce large variations in the long term behavior, so I just want that, same set of initial conditions nothing more nothing else, and people say i am crazy. Why is it so difficult to understand or even accept that previous set of conditions ultimately largely affect what future path you follow, the present may just seem as invariable as possible. So what about living in the present. Tell me what about it.